Don’t be so sad of being far from people that u love.
It would teach you to be more independent
Don’t be afraid of being alone
Because Allah always stay for you
Don’t be afraid of being leave
Because there would be another who come to complete your life
Don’t be so sad for unrealized things that you really hope
You may need to learn more and need a harderstruggle to make it true
Don’t be so sad for unrespect people around you
They may not intend to do it. You only need to see and learn about themselves
Don’t be so sad for things that u do not belong
You may need some things more important than it
Don’t be so sad for the bad things that happen to you.
Sometimes we need to have some bad experience to be a wise person in life
Don’t be so sad for unlucky life that u felt.
You only need a stronger fight to find your ideal life
All that you need is to have a positive thinking and good mindset in life. All that you need is to thanks God for uncountable needs that He had given to you. You need to know that you are really lucky.
*Written by Nysdee in a beautiful loneliness night*
I’ve beenlonely for so long. Waiting for someone without any kind of complicated lifestyle or mode but full with knowledge. Someone without any wealth of his dad to be proud of but never give up to find his ideal life. Someone without a handsome face to show off but never lose confidence to compete with others in this life university. Someone without a thousand science to be arrogant for but never stop learning.
I’ve been searching for so long. Searching for someone with thousands dreams in his mindand fights to reach it. Someone with some religious knowledge and harmonious with the modern life. Someone with humor to be laughed. Someone with good attitude and respect. Someone with good ideology and dynamic.Someone mature and labeled.
Today in my conscious life I decide to believe that I am not afraid of commitment anymore. Commitment may ills some people but it would make me stronger. Commitment may bring tears to others but it would reduce my fragile. Commitment may undertake some of my friends but it would complete the blank space in the corners of my heart. Commitment may trap some people but it would help me to move on. I believe it!!!
In this early new year, I start to live a new brand of life. I believe that I will pass this year and wish forever with someone over there. Someone who watch and care me from a distance. Someone who need me to stay. Someone who touch my heart softly. Someone who look at me deeply. Someone who talk to me slowly, and hear me patiently.
Thesearebeautiful feeling that I feel. Where all my heart’s feel collaborate into one and resulting love. Pure love that I dedicate to someone who meet me only about five hours since I know him. Deep love that I feel when someone feels what I feel.Great Love that I get from someone who choose me to be loved and share strength to me by his kind heart. Beautifullove that I receive from someone who want me to stay.
This is kind of relation that I need. Where someone worry me but let me free. Where someone let me free but warn me. Where someone warn me but believe me. Where someone believe me but remain me. Remain me to be carefulabout this wild world and all bad things that may happen to me.
Dimasa itu aku menamankan diriku sebagai anak kampung yang beruntung. Menghabiskan waktu dengan berkelana di alam bebas. Aku tidak mengenal dunia fantasi yang katanya penuh dengan permainan-permainan fantastis. Di kepalaku, yang fantastis itu adalah laut yang deru ombaknya mengundang aku dan teman-temanku untuk datang mendekatinya. Bahkan, masuk kedalamnya. Merasakan asinnya, menyatu dengan birunya, menikmati angin dan pemandangan nelayannya yang setiap sore kembali kedaratan bersamaan dengan datangnya senja kemerahan yang sangat memukau. Di benakku yang fantastis itu adalah sungai yang membentang luas di belakang rumah, disana aku dan teman-temanku bermain “sembunyi batu” salah satu di antara kami akan menyelam dan membawa batu ukuran sedang ke dalam air, meletakkannya di semak-semak yang tumbuh di dasar sungai bagian pinggir, setelah sang pembawa batu tadi muncul ke permukaan kami pun langsung melesat masuk, meluncur ke dalam sungai yang tidak terlalu dalam, mengacak-ngacak dasar sungai yang bagian pinggirnya ditumbuhi dengan semak-semak. Berlomba menemukan batu yang tersembunyi. Sebuah kompetisi untuk mendapatkan kepuasan batin karena sang pemenang hanya dihadiahi dengan tepukan riuh dan terikan “HORE”
Di masa itu, aku selalu melihat manusia dewasa sebagai manusia yang sangat rumit. Mereka selalu bermasalah. Fenomena manusia dewasa yang penuh dengan masalah seringkali membuatku selalu ingin kecil dan tidak ingin kehilangan masa kecilku. Terkadang aku menganggap mereka sebagai musuhku dalam menikamti kesenangan dan kebahagiaanku. Untuk bergabung bersama teman-temanku di laut atau di sungai saja aku harus menyelinap sehening mungkin untuk bisa kabur dari rumah. Aku tidak pernah diijinkan untuk bermain disana, namun naluri petualangku memaksaku untuk ada disana meski dengan resiko pahaku akan dicubit saat pulang nanti. Kupingku akan memerah mendengar ocehan kasih sayang mama yang saat itu kuanggap seperti petir yang membuatku ketakutan (Maafkan aku mama).
Aku sangat mencintai kenangan masa kecilku. Di masa itu, aku berlomba mengayuh sepeda bersama teman-temanku. Berputar-putar di dalam kampung yang tidak terlalu indah dan terkadang terdampar di hutan-hutan kecil yang letaknya tidak jauh dari kampung. Di masa itu aku sangat menikmati permainan layang-layang. di setiap sore di musim panas, aku dan teman-temanku bergerombol di tanah lapang samping puskesmas tempat papaku dulu bekerja. Kami berlari, berdiri, dan duduk bersandar menikmati pemandangan layangan yang terkadang saling beradu antara yang satu dengan yang lainnya, jika ada yang putus, kami akan berlari mengejarnya kemana pun angin membawanya. Kami menikmati melodi klasik yang tercipta dari gesekan angin dan senar yang dipasang di punggung layangan.
Aku memang tidak mengenal permainan-permainan modern, tapi aku merasakan permainan dan bermain yang sebenarnya di kampungku yang terpencil itu.
Fifth semester, Student of English Letter Department
INTRODUCTION
Language is such a central part of our lives that we tend to take it for granted until we come across the wonder of a tiny child becoming able to speak, or until we turn our attention to it as an object of scholarly inquiry. Language is intimately and intricately linked to our ability to think, to be awere of our own existence and of the perspectives of others, to share information and feelings, and to investigate its own nature. Human language is a very complex phenomenon. It is unlikely that a single theory producing a single model, will be able to describe language comprehensively and in ways that are useful for all purpose.
We believe that culture is an important aspect that we can not separate from language. They need each other. Members of a social group need the language to communicate to others and do everythings, while language is not a language before someone use it to communicate with his friends or whoever in his life. I just want to present or write something about both language and culture according to my study in the class, and my experience in daily life. Language and cultere just like couple that always together. People sometimes not so care of both of it, while we have to realize that both of it are really important to know and to understand. Just remember that we are as the speaker of the language, the creator of the culture, then combine both of it into a language that we speak every day, means that we are the medium of the language existence.
LANGUAGE DEFINITION
Language is:
a.A part of culture and it’s a meant for communication;
It’s the principal means by whereby we conduct our social lives. Where it use in context of communication, it is bound up with culture in multiple and complex ways
b.Symbolizes cultural identity
As we know that there is a natural connection between the language spoken by members of social group and that group’s identity. By their accent, their vocabulary, their discourse patterns, speakers identify themselves and are identified as members of this or that speech and discourse community. From this membership, they draw personal strength and pride, as well as a sense of social importance and historical continuity from using the same language as the group they belong to (Kramsch, 1998; 65-66)
c.Cultural interaction from they all perspectives
Language seems like a guide that guide us to the social interaction. It is the most sensitive indicator of the relationship between an individual and a given social group even thought there is no one to one relationship between anyone’s language and his or her cultural identity.
CULTURE DEFINITION
Culture is an integral pattern of human behavior. It is includes:
1.thought;
2.Believes
3.Languages
4. Values
5.Customs
6.Face to face interaction
7.Ritual
8.Manner of interactive
9.Relationship among social people
10.Religion
Culture can be defined as membership in a discourse community that shares a common social space and history, and common imaginings. Even when they have left that community, its members may retain, wherever they are, a common system of standards for perceiving, believing, evaluating, and acting. These standards are what is generally called ‘culture’ (Kramsch,1998 ; 10)
THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN LANGUAGE AND CULTURE
The realtion between language and culture is much more complex than the coordinate title language and culture work suggest. Language is, of course, an integral part of culture, defined simplistically as the totality beliefs and practices of a society. furthermore, the semantic content of a language is always related to the entities, events, states, processes, characteristics and relations within culture, and culture depends in large measure on language in order to function and perpetuate (continue) itself. t is not strange, therefore, that most of serious mistakes in translation are the result of not recognizing the intimates between language and culture (Nida, simplified by Abdul Hamid, 2010;1)
Language is the principal means whereby we conduct our social lives. When it is used in social communication, it is bound up with culture in multiple and complex ways. To began with, the words people utter refer to common experience. They express facts, ideas or events that are communicable because they refer to a stock of knowledge about the world that other people share. Words also reflect their author’s attitudes and beliefs, their point of view, that are also those for others. In both cases, languages express cultural identity, language also embodies cultural reality, and symbolizes cultural reality. (Kramsch,1998;3).
Culture has three sets of interpersonal relations in which language plays a principal and crucial role:
1. Integration; more than one culture, combination, and intercultural. The integration of a baby into a family is especially crucial because young children are amazingly sensitive to bring accepted or rejected by parents and siblings. At this stage of interpersonal communication the combination of pleasant voice quality and loving facial expression plays a particularly critical role.
2.Acculturation; the process of internalizing culture and society. The acculturation stage of culture usually involves some type of formal education, in which children learn the skills that the race has found indispensable (absolutely essential). The Najo culture of the Southwest United States focuses on understanding performance of individuals, while the nearby “Hopi’s society” places greater value on fitting into the social group. And in the Western World this adolescent period can be especially sterssful because for many young people, the future depands so much on success in learning largerly unrelated masses of information, for example, trigonometry, ancient history, and Shelly’s Ode to the West Wind
3.Collaboration; to produce universe. The process of acculturation also leads almost inevitable to the stage of collaboration, in which people work together with others to provide food, clothing, shelter, and protection againts hostile persons.
The most successful cultures are precisely those in which language is used effectively by four calsses os speaker-hearers:
1.Sensors; those hwo place limits on the behaviour of others in view of their power and aouthority
2.Creators; those who urge and cause change
3.Transmitters; those who pass information to others
4.Receivers; those who primary receive information
The position of peole within such communication roles is constantly changing in a dinamic society.
MY COMMENT
I almostt agree with both the opinion of Kramsch and Nida. That anguage is, of course, an integral part of culture and it is the principal means whereby we conduct our social lives. When it is used in social communication, it is bound up with culture in multiple and complex ways.
CULTURE STEREOTYPE
Stereotype is conventionalized ways of talking and thinking. It usually describe the typical members of culture.
e.g :
ØIn America Psychomotor is more important than knowledge
ØIn Prances knowledge is one of the most important thing
ØCommonly, the most important thing n Asia is attitude, conduct, or way of acting.
Stereotype is very correlate with attitude, It just like a way of thinking or behaving to work somebody or something. Usually it’s also correlate with the type of culture.
Attitude is dividing into positive and negative.
Example of negative:
e.g: Rejecting the western culture.
The causes of negative attitude:
1.Conservatism; the follower of this ism are hate the innovation or something new, and they maintain their own believes
2.Feeling superior to the other cultural groups
3.Insufficient knowledge of stereotyping. Stereotyping is different type of culture.
4.Misinform of stereotyping, example is; some Orientals learn Islam only in some scoop and that’s bring into misunderstanding of Islamic thought.
5.Extreme ethnocentric thinking
And here are the way to solve or to overcome the negative attitude
1.Managing our culture
2.To be multiculturalism
3.Exposing the truth; inviting the people from stereotyping country to give some speech about their culture.
4. Giving enough information about the related culture
5.Encounter the native culture
6.Replacing the negative mysticism with an accurate understanding of the other culture
7.Respecting and value wing the other culture through their awareness
8.Appreciation of the foreign culture.
The problem lies in equating the racial, ethnic, national identity imposed on an individual by the state’s bureaucratic system, and that individual’s self-ascription. Group identity is not a natural fact, but a cultural perception. Our perception of someone’s social identity is very much naturally determined. What we perceive about a person’s culture and language is what we have been conditioned by our own culture to see, and the stereotypical models already built around our own. Group identity is a question on focusing and diffusion of ethnic, racial, national concepts or stereotypes (Kramsch,1998; 67-68 )
CONCLUTION
Language and culture are two unseparate things. All that we need is how to acquare the lannguage with the dynemic value of culture inside.
Peristiwa tak semuanya mampu kuceritakan dengan gamblang. disinilah segala kisah tertulis, siapapun boleh mampir membaca dan menikmati isinya. karena segala yang tertulis disini hanyalah aksara yang seringkali tak terungkap melalui lisan.
